Card Game

"It is human to forgive and not to forget"

When people do anything to us, we remember them. Yes, we also remember good things as well as the bad things. You can classify all your deeds towards other people as "giving them cards". To clarify - it's like those cards that you can play at card games. The sooner you understand this human tendency, you'll be able to be more aware of how to deal with people.

Here are some examples:

My dad never bought me anything more expensive than what I've ever bought for myself, so the average son would call him a cheapskate. He therefore gave me a "I am a stingy person" card. However, he also gave me a "I want you to be able to stand on your own" card.

Because of those cards I have, I know now not to expect any financial help from my father at all. And I am proud of him for teaching me to be independent.

-= O =-

When you're a girl and someone invites you out and you decline, depending on your reason - you give the guy a "I'm not really that interested in you" card or "Ask me out again" card, and if your attitude reeks of it, you also give him a "I'm building up my importance, ask me again" card.

The guy on the other hand gives the girl a "I asked you out, so I won't ask you out again ever. You do the asking." card. You also give her a "You probably think that I want you, but no I just want to hang out with you" card, depending on the guy's delivery.

-= O =-

Take note however, that some actions produce certain cards whether you like it or not, no matter how suave your delivery is.

If you hurt your girlfriend by breaking up with her, you give her a "I'm a jerk" card. It doesn't matter if you want to be friends with her or not or how honest you've been. You give this card to her without you being aware of it. If you cheat on her and she finds out, you give her a "I'll probably cheat again" card OR a "That will be the last time I'll cheat on you card". The girl gives the guy however, a "If I find a better guy, we're through" card.

When your boss screws you over by foregoing you for a promotion when you deserve it, he gives you a "I am unappreciative of your efforts to the company" card. The employee most probably gives him a "I'm leaving for a company that will take of me better" card.

-= O =-

There are also some instances that you can produce an inifinite number of the same card you just gave out.

When your girl leaves you for a guy who is wealthier than you, you get a "I am a materialistic person" card. Then you end up giving a "If all girls are like that, I'd rather be single for life" card.

Remember that this applies to almost every aspect of life. It isn't just limited to relationships.

See.. the list goes on an on. This is rather fun actually! ^^;